More Life in My Day

What do I say and how should I say it? Vocabulary is a reflection of who we are, but not necessarily who we want to be. It informs our vision of life and oppresses it or sets it free. Addressing our vocabulary isn't necessarily a moral work. It's a creative work! With a quick Google search you can find articles telling us, that it's the really smart people who use curse words in their daily conversation but I don't think that's true. It's more likely a lack of creativity. The smartest person in the room is not the guy/gal spewing profanities. It's the person with a "higher" word stock that breathes creativity and inspiring thoughts that builds themselves and others up. Bad verbiage is rarely inspirational. It may be functional, but don't we have a vision of our life that is more than functional? You bet, we do! Lazy Is As Lazy Does We see in comedy, the lazy comedian goes right at the vile and vulgar to get the laughs. The tho...

What are you thinking about? Nothing comes out that doesn't first go in. Since Netflix, Facebook, Twitter, professors, friends, family and co-workers are what's going in, guess what inevitably has to come out? That is not to say that anyone of those are bad. The idea is to get your mind wrapped around what is shaping your thoughts. This is probably not a big secret but may very well be an aspect of a fulfilling life that gets neglected. So, let's do a little coaching to move us forward in this meaningful area of self awareness. Specifically asking, what is influencing our thinking? Then let's put our foot down on what needs to go and what needs to be added. A Game Changing Challenge Schedule a day to raise your awareness of what is coming out of your mouth. That's usually a good indication of what has went in. The scary part is that, if what is coming out of my mouth is a lower standard than I want, maybe my actions have been compromised as w...

Thinking. When do we really get a chance to slow our mind, sit and soak in our own thoughts? We go from moment to moment, reacting to input that doesn't seem to stop or even slow down. It has the making of an I Love Lucy , episode of comedy and tragedy, that goes something like this:  Lucy and Ethel wrap chocolates! Masters of Time If we can't think, we can't be ourselves and since we are moving from task to task all week it doesn't leave us with much time to actually think. We become expert at simply responding and diminished in creativity, patience and an additional long list of other virtues that get neglected. Time is what it is. So, we have to make it serve our needs. It is a courageous and proactive step to block out and guard our time to give our mind a chance to work for us rather than always giving it over to everyone and everything else. It may seem as if we need to get away from the noise because the noise is bad or evil. It's not! The nois...

Take a second to think. What do you really want? Many times we'll find that what we want is actually something that we feel is "missing." When we feel like something is missing in our lives we crave a variety of solutions that may not be the solution to get you where you want to go. The sooner you find out what these things are, the sooner you can understand and fill that gap with the the right things. If we can avoid or at least minimize missteps along the way we can get there quicker and maybe even redeem our time a bit. Let's Work Through It What is Missing? Make a quick list of what you feel like you are missing. Write these things down . This could be anything from a car to a mindset. Maybe it's a relationship, health or a feeling. Maybe it's several things. Take time to brainstorm as big of list as you can. Set a timer for 10 minutes and stay in a focused brainstorm mode until it goes off. If you run out of ideas 3 minutes in, stay in this...

Have you had those moments where you have far too many things to do and have a hard time trying to figure out which critical task to start with? Oh, yea, for sure. Anyone who has marked out their path, with even the most modest of goals, is going to continually run into the " more tasks than time " dilemma. So, let's not take up more of your time and get to the point. We recommend that you continue to use strategies that you have found effective but then test the following mindset strategy to see how you can best implement it. We know there is no one strategy of focus for all of humanity. We need to discover what calms our soul and moves us forward on an individual basis. So, take a moment and see how you can integrate the following steps that help us get focused. Stop what I'm doing. Forget everything else.  Hyper focus on my first task. Be grateful. A peaceful demeanor. Make it a competition/contest. Celebrate... every chance you get! ~~~~~~~ ...

Life does not weep for you when you miss opportunities. In fact, most people will not weep for you either. The obstacles are not the problem. Unsavory people, are not the problem. These things are a constant presence in the fabric of our lives. Overcoming in spite of these things is the mindset that is required. If that is difficult to get your mind wrapped around then the next best step is to get help. Life's challenges are going to continue to come. So, let me remind you of something that you probably don't thing a lot about. You were made for this moment! Made for This Moment This is true, indeed. So, how can today look different than yesterday. How about this? Try new resources that bring about a different perspective. As a Professional Coach I can not help you with problems or your resources but together we can do something better. We can help you find the perspective you need to overcome those challenges. Take a look through this blog. There are some fantasti...

Why has coaching become such an important part of our modern society? We could probably gather that the fast pace, the hectic schedules and vast opportunities to choose from, and dare I say, destiny, have brought us to this moment. Maybe necessity is the mother of invention? Consider this for a moment. Is it possible that life coaching actually teaches a lost art? Maybe. I would submit that life coaching gives our society back something that has indeed, been left behind. That would be the skill of critical thinking. Clear, Rational, Open-minded, Informed So, what is critical thinking? Critical thinking is disciplined thinking that is clear, rational, open-minded, and informed by evidence . 1  If we are not thinking like this we get something like the following mindset: "I'm the worst person ever. I can't do anything right. I'm not smart enough. No matter what I do it always goes wrong. I don't know why, I just know it's not working!" Do yo...